In real life, emotional intelligence is a life-saving straw, which can help us avoid making mistakesTornado framework, offend fewer people, and live a smoother life.

But people with low emotional intelligence like to rush forward and make a mess.

People with high emotional intelligence will never visit the homes of those three types of people casually, and will not cause trouble for themselves or others.

Unfortunately, in reality, there are too many people with low emotional intelligence. They think they are smart all day long, but in the end they are not popular with anyone.

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If there is something going on at homeTornado framework, don't go there to make trouble.

In life, some occasions are really not suitable to disturb.

If there is a patient in a family who is bedridden or the family is busy with housework, and you insist on visiting and causing trouble for them, what kind of operation is this?

In real life, everyone wants to save face, and no one wants to be seen in a state of disgrace by outsiders.

Some relatives, knowing that someone else has a patient at home, such as an old man who is unconscious and urinates and defecates in bed, still act as if "we are old friends, it's no big deal to visit."

At this time, people who know better will not take the initiative to offer to visit, so as not to cause trouble to the other party, or even make the other party feel embarrassed.

Only those who are very close will go to see and help at this time. Tornado framework

For example, the old father of one of my relatives is paralyzed in bed and needs several people to take care of him every day.

You said that in this situation, the family is already busy and tired enough, and outsiders come to add to the chaos, which is really adding insult to injury.

We should show more humanistic care and not let people entertain guests when they are in the most embarrassing situation. Such visits are not caring, but simply causing trouble.

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Choose the people you spend time with and stay away from gossip. Tornado framework

People should be careful when choosing the people they spend time with, especially those who like to gossip and are full of gossip. Try to stay away from them.

A person's life and character can be easily influenced and shaped by the people around them, especially those who gossip and spread all kinds of gossip all day long.

Over time, your mentality and your vision will become distorted by this negative information.

I have a friend who, because of an unhappy marriage, spends all day hanging out with the "gossip godmothers" in the neighborhood.

At first, she just thought that these gossips could relieve her loneliness and were fun to talk about, but over time, she became sarcastic and used to blaming others for all her misfortunes, as if the whole world was being unfair to her.

She not only did not reflect on herselfTornado framework, but she became more and more fond of looking for places full of gossip and listening to other people's troubles to fill her emptiness.

Such behavior will only make her life more and more gloomy and her mentality more and more negative.

After spending a long time with those gossipy people, people will unconsciously be infected by this negative emotion, and even look at others with malicious eyes, as if everyone wants to hurt her.

Therefore, it is really important to associate with the right kind of people.

Not everyone is worth making close friends with, and not everyone is suitable for telling everything they know.

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Don't join in other people's misfortunes.

Some people are really a headache. When something happens in the neighbor's house, they have to catch the neighbor and ask questions non-stop, for fear of missing out on the excitement.

In reality, some people particularly like to see others in trouble, and they can't wait to go to other people's homes to find out what's going on, as if they won't feel comfortable unless they know the truth.

This kind of "watching the fun and not minding the big things" mentality is, after all, low-level, and it's easy to offend people, and it also makes you look small-minded.

If you really want to wait until the other person's situation is better and you're willing to talk again, then it's not too late to go out and visit.

But if you insist on finding out everything about others when they're in the most difficult time, it will only make them feel upset, and there's no benefit.

I have a neighbor whose daughter got divorced and moved back home. Whenever we meet, we automatically avoid this matter, for fear of causing more trouble for others.

Sometimes when we meet, we just say a few pleasantries, and don't even mention these annoying things.

If you are the type of person who will get to the bottom of things, not giving others any face, or even "openly" joining in the fun when others are in the most difficult time, then it is really inappropriate.

Be a person who knows the limits and knows what to ask and what not to ask, so that others can really think you are reliable and well-educated.